WAYS TO BOOST YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE!! ♥
Here’s a few little things we can all do to love ourselves more and give us back our self confidence after a rough time!!
1) Write a list of all your good qualities, whatever they may be and put it up somewhere where you know you’ll see it every day. Read the list at least twice or three times every day until you believe all the things it says on there and realise just how beautiful and amazing you are!
2) Add new qualities to your list whenever you can think of any! Accept the compliments you get from those who love you instead of dismissing them and doubting yourself! This isn’t arrogance or being rude - it’s seeing yourself for who you really are :) Self confidence is all about the way we perceive ourselves, lovelies!!
3) If anyone tries to bring you down, keep the list of qualities inside your head and give yourself some positive self-talk! Remember just how incredible you are and repeat the things you know about yourself. Don’t let anyone tell you differently! Believe in yourself ♥
4) Keep your inner voice positive, whatever happens! If you’re feeling down, don’t let doubts take over and bring you down even more! Be positive and cheer yourself up :) You are a beautiful, amazing, talented person and you should feel that way at all times! ♥
Remember, self confidence is all about positivity!! With negative thoughts and doubts you won’t be able to get the confidence you need! Ignore people who try to get you down. Tell yourself that you are NOT worthless and that in NO WAY do you deserve to be treated like that!
Stand up for yourself, be positive and be happy lovelies!!! ♥ xx
DEPRESSION IS NOT A PLEA FOR ATTENTION!! ♥
It seems that society has a habit of looking down on those who have depression. You’re automatically labelled - if you cut, or seem depressed you’re ‘emo’ or an ‘attention seeker’ and this fear of being seen as something you truly aren’t can hold us back even more, can make us hide away more and can cause so many people to suffer in silence.
But it’s time we realised that depression is in no way a sign of weakness. Those of us who do suffer depression may have been through the unimagineable. It takes a lot to send someone to the point where they consider cutting or suicide and that has to be recognised. Do you really think a happy person would choose to self harm purely to gain attention?? Of course not! It’s time we reached out to those in pain instead of pushing them away and isolating them more…
Never be ashamed to admit that you cut or considered suicide. It may not be the answer to your problems but it is NOT a sign of weakness. You had a reason to.
And after admitting, the next step is recovery, to bring back your self belief and confidence and to make you realise just how amazing you are ♥ No one needs to feel like their only solution is to end their life… There’s always hope and better times ahead lovelies!
Stay strong! ♥ xx
BODY IMAGE ♥
Now, it strikes me that a lot of young women these days are OBSSESSED with body image. I see it in my friends, on tumblr, on TV… It seems to dominate our culture. “I want to be skinnier”, “I want the perfect beach bod”…
With summer coming up, so many girls feel ashamed to go out and enjoy the sun because they don’t have the right body shape! It’s outrageous! Society’s idea of skinny beauty has been blown way out of proportion in the past few years sending many teenagers into a spiral of depression in a search to find ‘perfection’.
You are all incredibly beautiful whether you’re a size 6 or a size 16. End of. ♥ As long as your weight doesn’t cause any health risks why is there any reason to dislike yourself??? Why is there any reason to change?? Where are the rules that say large is ugly?? There aren’t any because it’s not true! Fight society and don’t give into pressure, lovelies :)
Walk out in your shorts and your biknis, hold you head high, smile and say to yourself - ”I’m beautiful and no one can tell me any differently!”
Is it really better or even necessary to sacrifice and destroy a beautiful body through anorexia and bulimia to conform to society?? No, it’s not.
Don’t give yourself unnecessary trouble and illnesses because you feel under pressure to change yourself. Love yourself for who you are, be proud of you and your body and be confident. Because confidence is sexy, no matter how you look or weigh! ♥
So to all the girls out there - you are beautiful! Embrace it, enjoy and stay strong! ♥ xx
A WAY TO COMBAT CUTTING ♥
Here’s a little thing you lovelies can do if you ever feel the urge to cut…
When you get the urge, instead of picking up the razor, pick up a marker pen and draw on your wrist a butterfly or the name of a person/thing in your life that you don’t want to lose…
The butterfly is something so innocent, that cutting through it would feel like destroying something so pure. And well, the name of the person you don’t want to lose explains itself :) Would you really carry on knowing that you would be hurting them so much??
Try this whenever it happens, and it should eventually become an automatic reaction without having to draw :)
Remember cutting will never solves your problems my lovelies - be strong and fight against the depression instead of giving in! ♥ xx
HOW TO STAND UP AGAINST PEOPLE WHO PUT YOU DOWN! ♥
So here’s a little secret of mine… There hasn’t been one day in my life since I turned 10 when I haven’t been insulted by my mother… And this ranges from the completely insignificant such as ‘You’re lazy’ to things such as ‘I wish you had never been born, you’re a complete waste of space and you’d be better of dead’… Yes, it’s hurtful. Especially when it comes from someone who you trust and believe should love you unconditionally…
Yet, I’ve learnt that the best way to not let these things scar you is to talk to someone you trust and ask for an honest opinion. Tell them what’s being said about you and tell them it’s making you feel insecure, then ask them for their honest opinion about you and then, most importantly - believe them! I am extremely guilty of not having done this, but this honestly won’t help you if you question what they say to you!
So have some confidence in yourself and believe them when they say you’re amazing. Then the next time someone tries to put you down, before you let it hurt you, remember what your friend said to you, remember that what they said was true, and dismiss the hurtful words being spoken.
Fighting back will only worsen the situation so as they say, it’s best to be quietly confident! Quite simply, believe in yourself :)
Stay strong my lovelies!! ♥ xx
HOW TO STOP YOUR PROBLEMS WORSENING ♥
The thing about life and our problems is that as soon as something happens that gets us down, everything suddenly seems to go downhill, and before we know it we’re surrounded by so much hurt and pain that it’s hard to know where to start to get back up… This can make depression worse.
That’s why, no matter how hard it seems to do so, let out all your feelings and deal with each problem as it comes before you decide to move on. This way you feel free from the pain, instead of moving on with the thought that you left something unsolved, and as a result, anything that occurs afterwards seems more manageable rather than adding to your sadness.
So whenever something/someone gets you down, take some time out, go out for some fresh air and think about EVERYTHING you want to say about it. Don’t hold back on anything. Even if it means saying something uncomfortable to a loved one, if they have brought you down, it’s best that they know. Once you know what you want to say, think of a time when you know you’ll have the courage to say all these things and let it all out. Don’t make it sound accusatory or angry, just tell them that this is how you feel.
Sort your problem out and I guarantee my lovelies that you’ll be feeling much lighter and happier afterwards and ready to tackle whatever life throws at you next!
Remember if you need any help regarding a problem or just want to talk, I’m always here for you! And stay strong! ♥ xx
THINGS TO DO TO CHEER SOMEONE UP ♥
A few little things you lovelies can do if you see someone looking down or depressed :D
1) SMILE - it doesn’t seem like much at all but to someone feeling depressed it can be all the hope they need
2) Say ‘Hi!’ or make the effort to talk to someone who looks alone - Just because they look down it does not in any way mean that they should be ignored! You never know, you might just discover a new best friend :)
3) Ask if they’re okay - But make sure you mean it! - Sometimes, just knowing that someone out there cares can brighten someone’s day!
4) If it’s a close friend or some you get talking to, attempt to cheer them up - put a smile on their face and make them laugh, but remember not to be tactless or make jokes about their problem as that could make matters worse!
5) The hardest one of all - stand up for someone if you see them being picked on… When we think about it, it seems like the easiest and the right thing to do without a doubt. But physically putting ourselves in a position where we’re on the more vulnerable side is tougher than it seems… If we can become absolutely selfless and do that for someone, we would be giving the most amazing gift of love and support to someone in need!
So remember, there’s always a way to make a positive difference in someone’s life, no matter how small it is! We just need to look past our fear of associating ourselves with those who aren’t in the best frame of mind and take the time to offer as much help and love as we can!
Stay strong and believe in yourselves my lovelies! ♥ xx
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! ♥
My lovelies, do this every day when you wake up and every night before you go to bed…
Look at yourself in the mirror. What you see will bring to you a flood of thoughts - good and bad memories of yourself and your appearance. They may be your thoughts or things that others have said to you… If they’re bad thoughts, dismiss them and remember that you are beautiful ♥ :)
Beauty is not defnied by perfect figures and features. Beauty is defined by who you are - your personality, your mind, your strength and your heart. Think about it - there’s NO ONE else out of all the 6 billion people on the planet who will ever be the same as you! You are special, you are unique, you have your own entire life ahead of you, waiting to be discovered, waiting to lead you on to greatness!
Think about all that you have been through in life… The fact that you have survived the trials of life and are standing alive to carry on, shows that you have so much courage and determination! Remember this when you see yourself looking back at you in that mirror - remember that you are STRONG and that you will get through life, no matter what get’s thrown at you. You are amazing! So promise yourself to never let anyone else tell you differently!
Do this every day my lovelies to give you the confidence and self love that you deserve to feel! You are all so beautiful and amazing with so much to give in the future, and none of you ever deserve to feel any less wonderful than you really are!!
Stay strong my dearies! ♥ xx
When you go outside or even look outside your window, make it a point to find something to smile at my lovelies. Even if it’s just a flower you’ve never noticed before in your garden, try and find some beauty in the world around you :)
This way we’ll soon learn to see that even in the darkest of times there’s always something beautiful in life to smile about, no matter how insignificant it may seem! Be positive and look beyond the obvious pain to find some hope to carry your forward!
I promise you my lovelies, life is most certainly worth living and although it might not seem like it, there are definitely definitely better times ahead if you just hang in there a little bit longer!
Stay strong and remember that you are AMAZING!!! ♥ xx