Hello my dear Tania, I believe I am writing you again because things aren’t well… I may feel better if I only talk to you… I just need to know that someone is there for me and actually understands me. I am feeling the worst lately, I am feeling sad, all depressed, tired, and I feel like I can’t breathe lately. You know that I am an horrible person and I actually criticize myself very much, but because I feel like if I do that maybe I’ll get better. For example I hate being inferior than other people, but I am feeling like that everytime that I know that my supposed “friends” (because they tell it to me not because I ask, otherwise they would know I feel the WORST!) did get a better score than I in some subject, I feel horrible, I don’t want to be like that, but I do feel like that, because I know that I want to be better than them but I just can’t, I don’t know why…But I never can’t, and it makes me so sad, that they are more intelligent than I, or better than I. I just want to be a bit more smart, and show to them that I am actually good… So why can’t I be good enough? After all that a do to make sure I will be the best. It just doesn’t work… I feel so sad, lately I just want to cry forever! I even talked to my poor mum and she is so nice to me, so kind (I am so sorry, to tell you this, because I know you don’t have actually the luck I have and I know I am being such an horrible and selfish person. Please forgive me honey) . My mum, she forgives me all the time, she just want me to be happy, and when I cry in front of her I know I am being weak, and I don’t want to show it to her… I don’t want to be weak… You understand me Tania? I wish I could be as strong as you… I really wish, but I guess I am already fighting for a long time… I am just tired … I am sorry dear, I just wanted to talk to you how I feel, because I know you would listen to me… Thank you so much for being there all the time, even for a stranger like me who actually doesn’t deserve it at all…

Many kisses for you* and hugs*

Lili*

@lianocas - Hello my lovely! I’m so sorry it’s taken so long for me to reply to you :( But I really hope you can forgive me for that!

And sweetie, please don’t apologise for asking for help! It’s so sad to hear that things aren’t getting much better for you, especially as you’re such a sweet girl, but I’m so pleased that you’ve come back to me for help and I’ll do whatever I can as many times as I need to to make you happier! ♥

 Now firstly, YOU ARE NOT A HORRIBLE PERSON! So stop thinking that way about yourself!! You’re an extremely lovely and caring girl who’s just going through a rough time, and when things like this happen and when we find ourselves feeling down, it’s so easy to think of ourselves in a negative light! So firstly you have to get rid of the thought that you’re a horrible person, because, trust me Lili, you really are not!

Now, self criticism is a hard topic and I understand exactly how you feel - that the more you put yourself down, the harder you’ll work and the better you’ll become… However, sometimes, finding the balance between positive criticism and completely shooting ourselves down is hard! Which is why I advise that you do talk to your mum however hard that may be to you Lili. From what you’ve told me, she seems to really care about you and I know that if you talk to her about how you’re feeling, she’ll definitely give you an honest opinion!

And my lovely, wanting to be more successful than those around us is just something in human nature! It doesn’t make you selfish or any less of a good person, it shows that you have determination and ambition and you should proud of that! If you find that you can’t be better than them, if it really matters to you then try as hard as you can to get where you want to be but never ever ever get carried away by that! Be proud of who you are and what you can achieve - that’s what makes you you! You are good enough, so don’t believe otherwise based on grades! The person that you are makes you amazing okay? :) ♥

I know that it’s hard to think otherwise Lili my lovely! Sometimes when, like you say, we’ve been fighting for so long, it seems like there’s nothing left for us. We can feel so worthless and so down and all we feel like doing is crying… But remember dearie that you have so much about you to be proud of! Getting worse grades than your friends should not make you feel like you’re the worst!

You are one extremely strong girl Lili, you are not weak at all! All you need is a little bit more confidence in yourself, to see just how incredible you are. You deserve so much more happiness than you have right now and the key to that is self-confidence! So just talk to your mum about how you feel and I’m sure she’ll try and help you as much as she can my lovely!

But please stay strong, don’t give up on yourself and please come back to me if there’s anything more you need dearie! I’ll always always be here to help you and give you the happiness you deserve. You’re one amazing girl Lili!

Stay strong, keep smiling, and much love and hugs ♥ xx 

I promise you my lovelies, that whatever you feel, you are never ever alone… There will always be someone going through similar problems to you who can help you and give you the hope and strength to carry on :) Just open your heart out and talk to those you love. They may not be able to completely solve your problems, but I guarantee they’ll do their best to help! ♥

Stay strong and remember I’m always here for you if you ever need to talk! ♥ xx

A few little things you lovelies can do if you see someone looking down or depressed :D

1) SMILE - it doesn’t seem like much at all but to someone feeling depressed it can be all the hope they need

2) Say ‘Hi!’ or make the effort to talk to someone who looks alone - Just because they look down it does not in any way mean that they should be ignored! You never know, you might just discover a new best friend :)

3) Ask if they’re okay - But make sure you mean it! - Sometimes, just knowing that someone out there cares can brighten someone’s day!

4) If it’s a close friend or some you get talking to, attempt to cheer them up - put a smile on their face and make them laugh, but remember not to be tactless or make jokes about their problem as that could make matters worse!

5) The hardest one of all - stand up for someone if you see them being picked on… When we think about it, it seems like the easiest and the right thing to do without a doubt. But physically putting ourselves in a position where we’re on the more vulnerable side is tougher than it seems… If we can become absolutely selfless and do that for someone, we would be giving the most amazing gift of love and support to someone in need!

So remember, there’s always a way to make a positive difference in someone’s life, no matter how small it is! We just need to look past our fear of associating ourselves with those who aren’t in the best frame of mind and take the time to offer as much help and love as we can!

Stay strong and believe in yourselves my lovelies! ♥ xx

The thing about life and our problems is that as soon as something happens that gets us down, everything suddenly seems to go downhill, and before we know it we’re surrounded by so much hurt and pain that it’s hard to know where to start to get back up… This can make depression worse.

That’s why, no matter how hard it seems to do so, let out all your feelings and deal with each problem as it comes before you decide to move on. This way you feel free from the pain, instead of moving on with the thought that you left something unsolved, and as a result, anything that occurs afterwards seems more manageable rather than adding to your sadness.

So whenever something/someone gets you down, take some time out, go out for some fresh air and think about EVERYTHING you want to say about it. Don’t hold back on anything. Even if it means saying something uncomfortable to a loved one, if they have brought you down, it’s best that they know. Once you know what you want to say, think of a time when you know you’ll have the courage to say all these things and let it all out. Don’t make it sound accusatory or angry, just tell them that this is how you feel.

Sort your problem out and I guarantee my lovelies that you’ll be feeling much lighter and happier afterwards and ready to tackle whatever life throws at you next!

Remember if you need any help regarding a problem or just want to talk, I’m always here for you! And stay strong! ♥ xx

So here’s a little secret of mine… There hasn’t been one day in my life since I turned 10 when I haven’t been insulted by my mother… And this ranges from the completely insignificant such as ‘You’re lazy’ to things such as ‘I wish you had never been born, you’re a complete waste of space and you’d be better of dead’… Yes, it’s hurtful. Especially when it comes from someone who you trust and believe should love you unconditionally…

Yet, I’ve learnt that the best way to not let these things scar you is to talk to someone you trust and ask for an honest opinion. Tell them what’s being said about you and tell them it’s making you feel insecure, then ask them for their honest opinion about you and then, most importantly - believe them! I am extremely guilty of not having done this, but this honestly won’t help you if you question what they say to you!

So have some confidence in yourself and believe them when they say you’re amazing. Then the next time someone tries to put you down, before you let it hurt you, remember what your friend said to you, remember that what they said was true, and dismiss the hurtful words being spoken.

Fighting back will only worsen the situation so as they say, it’s best to be quietly confident! Quite simply, believe in yourself :)

Stay strong my lovelies!! ♥ xx

If there is anything personal you want to talk about that you don’t want published on tumblr, feel free to e-mail me at:

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This means I am on messenger! So if you want a real discussion to deal with anything, drop me a message on here and I’ll try to talk to you whenever possible!!

Thank you my dearies and stay strong! ♥ xx